Summer is a great time of year. The days are long, the sun is bright, and people seem more cheerful. But when the sun goes down, the heat can make it hard to have a good time with adult sex. No one wants to get hot and sweaty, only to end up sticky and uncomfortable. It’s hard to feel sexy when you feel like you’re melting into the bed.
But you don’t have to put your intimacy on hold until fall.
You can still enjoy a great sex life even during a heatwave. You need to be a little creative. Looking to spice things up? Here are some tips to keep things fun and exciting, even when it’s really hot outside.
Try Different Positions to Stay Cool Â
When it’s hot, body heat can be a problem.
The traditional missionary position is great for intimacy, but it also means you’re pressed right up against each other. That can lead to a sweaty mess.
Mix things up by trying new positions.
Instead of a missionary, try something that doesn’t let you get too close. When there’s some space between your bodies, the air can move through, which makes a big difference.
If you’re in a position rut, check out our previous blogs on fun and exciting adult sex positions.
There’s something for everyone, and you’re sure to find something new. You might also try side-by-side positions, such as spooning. Spooning is low-effort and doesn’t require much skin-to-skin contact. You still get the connection, but you don’t get all sweaty.
Another option is sitting up.
Try having sex while sitting on a chair or the edge of the bed. This keeps your bodies a little apart and limits how much you have to move. The less you move, the less you sweat. It’s a simple fix that makes summer sex much more comfortable.
Try Temperature Play and New Toys Â
Don’t be afraid to try different toys.
Whether you’re alone or with a partner, adding extra stimulation can take things to the next level. Sometimes, the heat can make you feel lazy and not have the energy for a long session. Toys can help you reach the finish line faster, so you spend less time sweating.
But toys are more than just for speed.
They can also help keep you cool. Look into toys that use temperature play to help cool you down while things heat up. Temperature play means using hot or cold items to get aroused. In the summer, cold is the way to go.
Start simple by using an ice cube from the freezer.
Rub it slowly down your partner’s neck, across their chest, and over their stomach. The shock of the cold on warm skin is very arousing. It makes your partner shiver in a good way. Just remember to have a towel ready for the drips.
You can also use toys made of glass or metal.
These materials hold temperature well. Put a glass dildo or a metal wand in the fridge for a few minutes before using. When you take them out, theyâre very cold. Running a chilled toy over sensitive areas will make your partner shiver with pleasure. Itâs a fun, kinky way to stay cool and keep your adult sex life exciting.
Take It Outside Safely Â
After being inside all winter, it’s fun to feel the warm air on your skin. Take advantage of the nice weather and have sex outside.
But be smart about where you choose.
Pick a place that isn’t too public. Getting caught might sound exciting, but it can lead to big problems. You want a place where you can relax and focus on each other, not worry about being seen.
There are many campgrounds with pools or beach access where you can have fun and cool off after your adventures.
Renting a private cabin in the woods is a great idea. You can have sex on the porch or under the stars without worrying about neighbors. If you have a private backyard, set up a tent. It feels like you’re out in the wild, but you’re still close to home.
Having sex in water is a common summer fantasy. Whether it’s a pool, a lake, or the ocean, the water instantly washes away sweat. It feels light and free. However, there’s an important rule to follow when having sex in water.
The Golden Rule Of Water Sex: Use Lube Â
If you’re planning to have sex in water, remember that no matter how wet you get, you need gel-based lubricant.
Many people mistakenly think that being in water makes things slippery. But that’s not true. In fact, water washes away your natural lubrication. This can make sex uncomfortable and even painful.
Nothing kills the mood faster than rubbing you or your partner raw during the heat.
Friction is not your friend. To avoid that, you need a good, thick lube. Gel-based lubes are thicker than regular ones. They don’t wash away as easily in water. They stay on longer and give you the smoothness you need for comfortable sex.
Silicone-based lubes are also a great choice for water play.
Silicone doesn’t dissolve in water, so it stays slippery even when you’re fully submerged. Just remember that silicone lube should not be used with silicone toys. But it’s completely safe for body-to-body activity. Apply it generously before getting into the water and reapply if needed. Your partner will thank you.
Change The Environment Â
Sometimes, the best way to handle summer heat is to change where you’re having sex.
If your bedroom feels like an oven, move the activity. The living room floor might be cooler. A tiled bathroom can be a great escape from the heat.
You can also try changing the time of day you have sex.
Mid-afternoon is usually the hottest part of the day. Save your energy for later. Try waking up early in the morning. The house is at its coolest right before the sun comes up. A quick, passionate session at dawn is a great way to start the day. Plus, you get it out of the way before the heat makes you too tired.
Late at night is also better.
Wait until the sun goes down and the air cools off. Open the windows and let the night breeze flow over your bodies. You might even want to invest in a small fan that points directly at the bed. The constant airflow will keep you dry and cool.
Take A Sexy Shower Â
A cool shower is a classic way to cool down.
But it can also be a great way to get things hot. Take a shower together before you have sex. This lowers your body temperature and washes away the day’s sweat. You’ll feel clean, fresh, and much more in the mood.
You don’t even have to have sex in the shower.
Sometimes, just washing each other is intimate enough. Lather up with some nice-smelling soap. Take your time. By the time you get out, you’ll be cooled off and totally relaxed. Then you can move to the bedroom for the main event without feeling overheated.
Conclusion Â
Summer doesn’t have to mean the end of a great sex life.
Yes, the heat can be annoying. Yes, the sweat can be a turn-off. But with a little effort, you can easily work around it. Change your positions to reduce body heat. Try cold toys for temperature play. Take your fun outside to enjoy the summer nights. And always, always remember to use lube, especially if you’re getting into the water.
With all these hot summer adult sex tips, you’ll be sure to keep things steamy between the sheets, no matter how high the temperature rises.
Intimacy is important all year round. Don’t let a little heat stop you from connecting with your partner. Embrace the season, try new things, and stay cool while you get hot. What is your favorite way to beat the heat?
